Sunday, September 20, 2009
Monday, September 14, 2009
By Cristen Conger, HowStuffWorks.com
Today's families run at breakneck speeds. Parents toil away for 40 hours or more in the office. Kids are saddled with afterschool activities and homework. Weekend sports games, get-togethers and errands leave few spare moments to sit and smell the roses. Time is such a precious commodity these days that diligently managing your family's schedule is key to obtaining a work-life balance. Juggling multiple schedules around in your head can become overwhelming and increase your stress load.
By following a few simple tips, you can minimize the hassle of family scheduling and even pencil in some free time for yourself.
5: Stay Organized
Just like managing a project at in an office, organization is vital to handling your family's schedule. First, purchase a large calendar and put it in a prominent place in your home. For added accessibility, some Web sites offer free calendars that your family members can access online.
Start by adding information about school holidays, birthdays, sports games, recitals, doctor appointments and vacations. Then, when a new activity comes up, jot it down immediately. When dealing with multiple schedules, it may be a good idea to organize the calendar by name as well. Be sure to include the following five essential facts when recording each event: who, what, when, where and how.
4: Plan Ahead
Knowing when to plan for hectic days can alleviate a lot of the stress that comes with managing a family schedule. If you've already set up an up-to-date family calendar, make it a daily habit to check it in the mornings. Amid the hustle and bustle, it's easy to forget Sally's haircut appointment in the afternoon or Johnny's evening guitar lesson.
On the weekends, take a few minutes to look at the week ahead. If you see an overloaded day on the horizon, you'll have more time to shift around activities or arrange for carpooling or babysitters. Leaving planning to the last minute, on the other hand, will only cause frustration and anxiety.
3: Share the Load
As a busy parent, sometimes you have to ask for help. When you're organizing the family calendar, look at who's responsible for accomplishing what. Is someone doing all of the transporting, while another has ample free time? Does one person have a large project coming up and might not be able to complete routine household duties?
Evaluate your resources and strategize ways to utilize them. If your neighbor's son is on the same soccer team as yours, maybe you could trade out carpooling days. If grandparents live in the area and want to spend more time with their grandchildren, perhaps they could hang out with the kids after school once a week. It's also smart to have a friend on stand-by in case of emergencies.
When compiling a family schedule, remember that there are only 24 hours in a day. If you pile up too many activities and outings, you diminish your family's quality of life. Certainly, some kids will want to pursue soccer, ballet, painting and horseback riding all at the same time, but it's up to you to teach the importance of prioritizing. Talk with them about what they would enjoy the most and can commit to long-term, and go from there.
If you need to free up time on the family calendar, first assess priorities, such as school and doctor appointments. When whittling down further, consider the importance of certain events to the people involved, any cost associated with canceling and time invested.
1: Schedule Time Out
Perhaps the most important thing to keep in mind when managing a family schedule is to leave adequate room for free time. It's crucial for a busy family to slow down and spend time together to nurture relationships and relax. When looking ahead on your well-organized family calendar, keep an eye out for open evenings. These are good opportunities to pencil in a family movie or game night. Teenagers may be more resistant to staying at home, but sharing a meal at the least is essential.
In the words of John Lennon, life is what happens when you're busy making other plans. Don't let time fly by without spending it with the people you cherish the most.
Then on National Geo chancel there was this story The World Smallest Girl. Loved this one too.. amazed that I had never heard about this before. She is just darling.. and soo trendy.. she is 16 .. and all of it too.. the makeup, clothes, etc.. soo cute.. but her limbs are bad.. she desperately needs surgery. They drew blood from her with this HUGE needle and here in america they don't do that, I don't understand why they had to do this from such a little person. Why can't they use a butterfly needle on her to get the blood that they need from her. That could make all the difference in the world for her. She desperately needs surgery for her legs but there is not a reason at all why in the world they would have to use that LARGE NEEDLE to draw that blood from her... you have to watch the show to understand what I am talking about but it is just wrong. Someone (A Doctor) from America should help her!!
On the homefront, the weekend was great!! Just lounged around with the boys this weekend.. which was great.. we watched movies and tv together.. those are the best times .. we just talk and hang out.. they really open up to us during times like that.. about life and girls.. it is great.. Bedtimes are different on the weekends.. more relaxed... Thanks to my friend Terri, I started weeknight bedtimes 30mins earlier to accomodate talking, xtra bathroom trips, forgetting things, etc., so we aren't having to yell come 9 pm get to sleep constantly.. by 9pm they are more sleepy, THANKS TERRI!! We find out this week if Chris will be on the A or B team for Football.. can't wait for that.. and football starts next week..oh boy... Boy scouts started yesterday too.. so everything is starting to get busy...
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Thursday, September 10, 2009
2. Beg him to read your journal.
3. You know you shouldn't call him too much, so say to yourself, "I'm an adult. He's an adult. I refuse to play stupid games."
4. Call him repeatedly.
5. If he doesn't call back, email him. If he doesn't return your email, fax him a funny little joke. If he still doesn't call, drop by his office and surprise him with a "cute" card. If he's not at his office, drive to his house, wait for him at his front door and, when he arrives, tell him he can do anything he wants with you.
6. Ask him once a week, "So, where do we stand?"
7. Or, if you prefer a more dramatic scrotum-tightener, ask, "So where do we stand as a couple?" 8. Rarely wear high heels to bed.
9. Be the first woman in recorded history to actually tell a man exactly how many chaps she's slept with.
10. Fixate on the future. Focus on his taking you to the Bahamas for Valentine's Day
11. Always cry after sex.
12. Criticize his mother.
13. Do you own a pair of baggy maroon sweatpants? Wear them.
14. Is he feeling a tad overwhelmed by the serious turn your affair is taking? Surprise him with loads of expensive gifts for no reason.
15. Nag. Nag. Nag. Nag. Nag.
16. Giggle at his receding hairline.
17. Tell him oral sex makes you gag. Except when he does it.
18. Don't let him miss you (i.e., spend every blessed moment with/near/on/under/over him ‑- particularly those blessed moments when you feel bloated and paranoid).
19. Never have your wallet with you.
20. Let him know that every day is Judgment Day as far as you and he are concerned and that you'd rather be right than happy
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Orange acrylic paint
Brown acrylic paint
Black permanent marker
Time needed: 30 Minutes or Less
Use your imagination (and some paper, glue, and a pen or pencil) to turn ordinary backyard leaves into a whimsical menagerie.
Autumn leaves from your yard
Pencils, pens, or crayons
Time needed: About 2 to 3 Hours
1. Go outside and see what kinds of animals are hiding in your leaf piles. Below are some possibilities. When you've found leaves in your yard whose shapes you like, glue them to pieces of paper and use pencil, pen or crayon to make your creatures complete. To preserve your creations, press them between two books.
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone...
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first pay check.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion, Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years,will this matter?
'27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone and everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give it time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's,we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."
Sunday, August 30, 2009
It implies she doesn’t look good.
Instead say: “Is everything OK?” We often blurt the “tired” comment when we get the sense that the other person feels out of sorts. So just ask.
Don’t say: “Wow, you’ve lost a ton of weight!”
Why: To a newly trim person, it might give the impression that she used to look unattractive.
Instead say: “You look fantastic.” And leave it at that. If you’re curious about how she got so svelte, add, “What’s your secret?”
Don’t say: “You look good for your age.”
Why: Anything with a caveat like this is rude. It's saying, "You look great―compared with other old people. It's amazing you have all your own teeth."
Instead say: “You look great.”
Don’t say: “I could never wear that.”
Why: It can be misunderstood as a criticism. (“I could never wear that because it’s so ugly.”)Instead say: “You look so good in skinny jeans.” If you slip, say something like “I could never wear that…because I wasn’t blessed with your long legs.”
Don’t say: “That’s not my job.”
Why: If your superior asks you to do something, it is your job.
Instead say: “I’m not sure that should be my priority right now.” Then have a conversation with your boss about your responsibilities. In the past year, the rules of the workplace have changed.
Don’t say: “This might sound stupid, but…”
Why: Never undermine your ideas by prefacing your remarks with wishy-washy language.
Instead say: What’s on your mind. It reinforces your credibility to present your ideas with confidence.
Don’t say: “I don’t have time to talk to you.”
Why: It’s plain rude, in person or on the phone.
Instead say: “I’m just finishing something up right now. Can I come by when I’m done?” Graciously explain why you can’t talk now, and suggest catching up at an appointed time later. Let phone calls go to voice mail until you can give callers your undivided attention.
Friday, August 28, 2009
Did you know that every color has a specific meaning or symbolism? Just like horoscopes, some people believe in these symbols and meanings and others do not. Whether you believe it or not, certain colors certainly do exude specific energies (red is hot, yellow is cheerful, etc) and the colors that you choose for your wedding theme can have a big impact on the overall success of your big day. Here is a closer look at what the specific meanings are behind the most popular wedding colors:
The color RED signifies passionate love: Red is the warmest color of all and is the most chosen wedding color for couples (or brides) with outgoing, confident personalities. Be careful not to overuse red or it can come across as garish and tacky. In Asian culture, red is the color of eternal joy and prosperity, and therefore red is a popular color for Chinese brides to wear on their wedding day. In Western culture, red is the color of passion and red roses symbolize passionate love, often making them a preferred choice for table arrangements and bridal bouquets.
The color PINK signifies calm, joyous love. Known as a quiet and soft color, pink symbolizes universal love and is a favorite wedding color for brides everywhere. Pink carnations symbolize ‘forever remembered’ and therefore, are a sweet flower to add to a grooms boutonnière or bridal bouquet. Since pink is the result of mixing red with white, the degree of white dictates the softness or shocking shade of pink achieved. The softer tones of pink, which are most appropriate for a wedding theme color, signifies tenderness, love and acceptance.
The color BLUE signifies true, sincere love. Blue Perfect especially if you are having a tropical, exotic or beach themed wedding, blue is the coolest color of all and represents the sky, ocean and twilight. It is said that in Ancient Egypt, blue represented heaven, and since it is a calming color, blue can be wonderful and symbolic as a wedding day theme color. Blue flowers are strikingly beautiful, such as the blue iris, which symbolizes the importance of a relationship and would be a good flower in a mixed bouquet or as part of the table centerpieces at the wedding reception.
The color WHITE signifies pure love. White is the universal color for innocence and purity - worn by brides at weddings and babies at christenings around the world. Depending on the country or culture, white has many meanings - it can mean kindness, wholeness, completion, openness or truth - all good qualities to include in a wedding ceremony. White daisies are a symbol of loyal love - white tulips, roses, calla lilies and gerbera daisies are all very popular with today’s bride. White can have a cold, stark quality so you need to be very careful with your wedding décor. Balance it out with a second color and use warmer shades of white whenever possible.
The color PURPLE signifies magical, mysterious love. It is said that purple is the color of good judgment and peace of mind - two qualities that are ideal to share with wedding guests to symbolize the couple’s love, feelings and commitment. Of course, all throughout history, purple has been considered the color of royalty and thus has been a very popular wedding theme color for hundreds of years, and remains so today. Wedding flowers in purple such as orchids, freesia, violets and forget-me-nots are a wonderful complement to a bridal bouquet or table arrangements.
The color ORANGE signifies creative, vital and warm love. Orange is truly a color of power, and is chosen as a wedding theme color by the strong and confident couple who loves life and is not afraid to share their vibrancy and energy with others. Orange has always symbolized vitality, endurance, sincerity and thoughtfulness - perfect qualities to showcase on your wedding day. Orange flowers such as daisies, sunflowers, tulips, marigolds, and hothouse roses can create a stunning floral display for table centerpiece arrangements, especially when set against crisp white linen.
The color GREEN signifies healthy and balanced love. Green In most cultures, the color green represents earth, nature, life and fertility. However, it also symbolizes balance, self-respect and overall well-being. Given its restful properties and its ability to harmonize with other colors, green is a common color choice for wedding décor and reception decorations. Since green represents change, life and growth, it is the perfect complementary wedding color, especially in floral arrangements using lush ornamental grasses, baby’s breath, green fern leaves and other greenery. Green is also a very popular color for bridesmaid dresses, with soft sage being the current shade of choice with brides in North America.
The color YELLOW signifies happy and wise love. Yellow is the color of happiness, joy and bliss. Yellow is also a color with high energy so use it sparingly as a wedding theme color. The beautiful yellow daffodil is the symbol of unequivocal love, and makes this flower a poignant wedding flower choice. Other yellow flowers such as tulips, roses, and wildflowers make wonderful flower arrangements and bouquets if you are going with a yellow color palette. For a spring or summer wedding, yellow is the perfect color choice with shades such as buttercup yellow, lemon yellow and soft corn yellow the most popular choices.
Source: Tracey Smith is an expert article writer on the topic of weddings, we hope you found this article on wedding colors useful for your wedding planning.
Saturday, August 22, 2009
Towards the end of summer, moms begin to think about the upcoming school year. While the summer may have meant lazy days without schedules or routines, the school year brings about something else entirely. Shopping for school supplies, instilling earlier bedtimes and a few last sleepovers are all being crammed into the next few weeks but at some point, new schedules, routines, clubs, play dates and commitments will all begin.
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Think about how things went during the last school year. Were you stressed, overextended and overcommitted? You can follow the path you took last year and if it worked for you, that’s great. If it didn’t work for you however, you have another choice. The choice is to reevaluate the decisions you made previously, keeping what worked and changing what didn’t.
Each time you stop and reevaluate, you give yourself an opportunity to come up with a better strategy. You give yourself a chance to think about your values and what really matters most to you. Most importantly, you send a powerful message to yourself and those around you that your happiness matters too. So let’s say that you were overextended and overcommitted last school year. How can you make a change?
First take a look at when you say “yes” and “no”. Chances are you’re saying “yes” to a task you’d rather not do leaving you to say “no” to things that would bring you greater joy, passion and purpose. Here’s an example. Your daughter has a classroom performance and she’s counting on you being there. In order to get there on time, you left work early, ate in the car and returned phone calls during the drive. You race through the doors of school where you’re stopped by an acquaintance who asks you help out at the next PTA fundraising event. Your thoughts are on your daughter and the look she’ll have on her face if she doesn’t see you this minute so you end the conversation quickly with, “yes.”
After the performance you hug your daughter, race back to work and realize that you just added a few extra hours to your already overly extended lifestyle by saying “yes” when your mind, body, and soul were all screaming “no.” Why did you say yes? Maybe you felt guilty that you haven’t participated as often as some of the other moms. Maybe you were afraid that you’d be accused of “not being a part of the team.” Maybe you felt you’d be disliked, rejected or perceived as selfish if you didn’t say “yes” and finally, maybe you just don’t know how to say “no.”
What are your priorities? While they may include many things, spending time with family is often found somewhere near the top of the list. If quality time with your family is important and taking on another commitment will only leave you with less time for those you love, is saying “yes” in the best interest of you, your family, your values and your priorities? Saying “yes” to another time stealer leaves you saying “no” to something else that could have been fun, enriching and fulfilling.
Many moms say “yes” to avoid the confrontation or look of surprise they may receive if they say “no.” For these moms, it’s easier to take on the extra work than deal with the perceived unwelcome response or “wrath.” Here’s a thought. Yes it may be uncomfortable for a minute or two. You may feel tense, stammer and wish you were anywhere else. But that feeling is fleeting and the freedom you’ve retained by staying true to your values lasts much longer.
Many moms believe they’ll be perceived as mean, selfish or “above it all” if they say “no.” First of all, if someone is going to criticize, judge and critique you and your behavior, do you really care what they think? Secondly, is it mean or selfish if you use that extra time to cuddle with your kids, go on a “date” with your husband or catch up on some extra sleep so you’ll have more patience, energy and clarity? Lastly, you are your children’s greatest role model. They look to you to see how to feel, act and behave. If this extra commitment leaves you feeling stressed, overwhelmed and overextended, is this the way you want your children to always see you?
Many moms just don’t know how to say “no.” Maybe it just sounds too harsh or severe for you so a more subtle approach may work better. If this is the case, how about something like: “I need to think about it and get back to you.” This is a great way of buying time so you can make a clear decision after thinking it through. Another option may be: “I’d love to, but I have too much on my plate right now.” This is a straightforward, honest response that few moms can argue with. A final option may be: “Now’s not a good time but when I’m able to help, I’ll let you know.”
This approach keeps the door open for future requests while remaining true to your priorities and yourself. As the kids go back to school they will have another year to learn, grow and evolve. If we choose, we can use the opportunity to “go back to school” and take some lessons in self growth and development ourselves. This school term, let’s work on reevaluating old habits and unhealthy behaviors in order to help ourselves, improve our relationships and become the empowered moms we’d always hoped we’d be. It’s time to go back to school. Let’s make it a great year!
Will this work for you??
Friday, August 21, 2009
Here's to lying, cheating and stealing
Lie to lie to save a friend
Cheat to cheat to cheat death
Steal to steal the heart of someone you love.
For better or for worse, but never for granted.
Three be the things I shall never attain: Envy, Content, and Sufficient Champagne.
May you live as long as you want
And may you never want as long as you live.
May all your joys be pure joys,
And all your pain champagne.
I think that God in creating man somewhat overestimated his ability.
Here's to steak when you're hungry,
Whisky when you're dry,
All the girls (boys) you ever want,
And heaven when you die.
Here's to those that love us,
And here's to those that don't,
A smile for those who are willing to,
And a tear for those who won't.
Amor Vincent Omnia (Love Conquers All).
"Love doesn't make the world go ‘round,
but it sure makes the ride worthwhile."
Northing ruins a party faster than a terrible toast-don't try and be the funny guy or write up a three-page acceptance-letter-cum-speech.
Make a fabulous statement by using a tried-and-true toast, a famous quote or poem, or even a line from a movie that sums up the moment.
If you need to say something incredibly special, a great starting point is finding a line or proverb that almost fits and making it your own by adding a memory or a personal thought.
But whatever you say, just get to the point, quickly! And remember, when you end the toast, raise your glass and look everyone in the eye. Clink, clink!
Here are some memorable toasts, quotes, and movie lines:
"Here's looking at you, kid."
--Humphrey Bogart in Casablanca
"Carpe diem, seize the day, boys, make your lives extradordinary."
--Dead Poet's Society
"When choosing between two evils, I always like to take the one I never tried before."
"For better or worse, but never for granted."
"Three be the things I shall never attain, /Envy content and sufficient champagne."
"The best and the most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, nor even touched, but just felt in the heart."
"Love doesn't make the world go round, but it sure makes the ride worthwhile."
--Franklin P. Jones
"Here's to lying, cheating, and stealing. Lie to a friend, cheat to cheat death, steal to steal the heart of someone you love."
"May you live as long as you want, and may you never want as long as you live."
"I love you, and you are truly someone I can say is a real friend."
"May the best day of your past be the worst day of your future."
--Sarah Michelle Gellar
"Dans les yeux!" ("In the eyes!")
"If you slide down the banister of life, I hope the splinters are kind."
--Lara Flynn Boyle
"Bottoms up-there's more where this came from."
--Billy Bob Thorton
"Here's to love, money, and health."
"To life, love, and happiness. Salud!"
"Wishing everyone many blessings from God and good health and double happiness."
Has anyone known of anyone that uses those sports glasses for football, how does that go? or was contacts better??
The summer was great.. we didn't make the AL. trip this year but that is ok.. we did things together.. bowling, camping, laser tag, video games, chuck 'e cheese, shopping.. let me tell you the boys are in their in between stages... they are starting to recognize the clothes that they want to wear from just plan tshirt and jeans.. I want this label, etc.. ugh.. that is such a headache..
We went through the long hair fight this summer, but we won! YAY US!
Boy scouts is starting back up again too so we are going to be busy.. I promise to write more about my experiences through the eyes of the mom of boys... LOL
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
This team of delicious peanut-butter cookies is inspired by "G-Force," the Walt Disney Pictures film starring a spy squadron of specially trained guinea pigs. Your mission: try not to eat them all!
|1/2 cup butter, softened|
|1/2 cup creamy peanut butter|
|1/2 cup brown sugar, tightly packed|
|1/2 cup sugar|
|1 large egg|
|1 teaspoon vanilla extract|
|1 3/4 cups all-purpose flour|
|1 teaspoon baking soda|
|1/2 teaspoon salt|
|Mini chocolate chips|
2. Heat the oven to 350°. Form level tablespoons of dough into cylinders, pinching the ends a bit to make rough guinea pig body shapes. Use a knife to chop the peanut halves in half, then add peanut-piece ears and mini chocolate chip eyes to each cookie. Place the guinea pig cookies 2 inches apart on an ungreased cookie sheet. Bake until firm, about 8 minutes. Makes about 28 cookies.
1. If you can’t handle your alcohol, try not to get drunk.
We know alcohol is a social lubricant, and we know people drink to make things less awkward and nervous during dates. Go ahead and drink. Just don’t drink so much that you think it’s a good idea to cry in public, fall down the stairs, steal your date’s iPhone, and start a bar fight. We’ve heard some pretty wacky things in our community forums about drunken dates, and the overwhelming consensus is that they suck.
2. Don’t talk about your ex.
A cardinal rule of dating: it’s generally not okay to unleash your baggage on someone you barely know, so no sob stories about the ex on a first date. Honestly, people hate hearing about their significant other’s ex(es) even after years of dating, so why would anyone want to hear about one on the first date? Focus on the person you are with, not the one you used to be with.
3. Don’t talk about yourself nonstop.
It is so not fun to hear someone drone on and on about themselves. So you volunteer at an orphanage, a soup kitchen, and the animal shelter, you recently got a huge promotion at work, you have 2 PhDs and everyone says you look like George Clooney? Good for you. You might be impressive, but you’d be a lot more impressive if you ask questions about your date and show you’re a good listener rather than just a non-stop one man talking machine.
4. Don’t lie, and don’t hide important facts about yourself.
You will get caught. Even something as seemingly insignificant as saying you read a book you never actually read will get you caught. How? Because it always happens. Also, don’t hide important facts about yourself. Your date doesn’t need to know everything about you, but they deserve to know if you have kids, are married to someone else, are pregnant, live with your parents, or are currently homeless. What you divulge is up to you, but skeletons do come tumbling out of the closet eventually, so you might as well be clear up front.
5. Don’t use your cell phone.
We know you’re super excited about Zoosk Mobile (now you can flirt with Zooskers anywhere and everywhere you go!) but it’s rude to use your cell phone during a date unless it’s an absolute emergency. Being preoccupied on your phone is a sign you aren’t mentally present, which is a huge turn-off for the person you are with.
6. Don’t talk about money.
Zoosk recently conducted a study of over a thousand singles all across the United States, asking about sensitive issues like dating during a recession, unemployment, and going on dates that involve free activities as opposed to dining out extravagantly. What we found was that money can’t buy love, and that people don’t really let factors like money influence their decisions too much when it comes to dating someone they really like. For many, money is a touchy subject, and one that’s best avoided on a first date.
7. Don’t talk about your future together.
Even if you’re sure it’s love at first sight, don’t tell your date about your plans to Photoshop their Facebook pictures into fake wedding pictures and that you’ve always wanted two kids. That will only serve to make you seem creepy. And insane. Going into a date without any expectations is a good rule of thumb. Be pleasantly surprised if you and your date hit it off and make plans for the future, but it takes more than dinner and a movie before you get to marriage and kids.
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
Here's a reusable alternative to a summer favorite, the water balloon: colorful, multi-tentacled sponge balls.
|For each ball:|
|3 plain kitchen sponges|
Time needed: 30 Minutes or Less
2. Loop a piece of strong string around the center of the stack and pull tightly. Double-knot the string and trim the excess.
3. For a fast cool-off game, have two players stand a few feet apart, each beside a bucket of water. See how many times they can toss the ball back and forth, taking a step apart and dunking the ball in a bucket before each throw.
Monday, August 3, 2009
I saw this butterfly bouquet in the Summer 09 Martha Stewart Weddings magazine and just loved how beautiful and unique it was. When Laura Normandin married her husband Ben this year she created this lovely bouquet and we found instructions at Martha Stewart Weddings on how to make it:
Tools and Materials
- Assorted floral butterflies, floraltrims.com has a lot of options
- White floral-wire stems
- White floral tape
Butterfly Bouquet How-To
Floral butterflies come on wires, making this project super simple. Tape the wires close to the butterfly bodies with white floral tape to cover them and create a uniform appearance. Then gather together a few butterflies and tape their wires together using white floral tape. Stagger the spacing, or tape the wires only at the ends so you’ll have lots of wire to bend.If the wires are short, or if you want the butterflies to be able to be bent farther apart, attach individual butterflies or clusters of butterflies to floral-wire stems (lay the wire from a butterfly alongside a wire stem with a 1- or 2-inch overlap, and tape the two together). Make several clusters, and tape them together to create the desired shape. Finish the stem by wrapping it in ribbon.
Friday, July 31, 2009
Create your own Yellow and Black wedding theme. My inspiration:Have you decided on yellow as your wedding color but not sold on the black accent?
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Wednesday, July 29, 2009
- Don't seek happiness. If you seek it, you won't find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness. Happiness is ever elusive, but freedom from unhappiness is attainable now, by facing what is rather than making up stories about it.
- The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral, which always is as it is. There is the situation or the fact, and here are my thoughts about it. Instead of making up stories, stay with the facts. For example, "I am ruined" is a story. It limits you and prevents you from taking effective action. "I have 50 cents left in my bank account" is a fact. Facing facts is always empowering.
- See if you can catch the voice in your head, perhaps in the very moment it complains about something, and recognize it for what it is: the voice of the ego, no more than a thought. Whenever you notice that voice, you will also realize that you are not the voice, but the one who is aware of it. In fact, you are the awareness that is aware of the voice. In the background, there is the awareness. In the foreground, there is the voice, the thinker. In this way you are becoming free of the ego, free of the unobserved mind.
- Wherever you look, there is plenty of circumstantial evidence for the reality of time—a rotting apple, your face in the bathroom mirror compared with your face in a photo taken 30 years ago—yet you never find any direct evidence, you never experience time itself. You only ever experience the present moment.
- Why do anxiety, stress, or negativity arise? Because you turned away from the present moment. And why did you do that? You thought something else was more important. One small error, one misperception, creates a world of suffering.
- People believe themselves to be dependent on what happens for their happiness. They don't realize that what happens is the most unstable thing in the universe. It changes constantly. They look upon the present moment as either marred by something that has happened and shouldn't have or as deficient because of something that has not happened but should have. And so they miss the deeper perfection that is inherent in life itself, a perfection that lies beyond what is happening or not happening. Accept the present moment and find the perfection that is untouched by time.
- The more shared past there is in a relationship, the more present you need to be; otherwise, you will be forced to relive the past again and again.
- Equating the physical body with "I," the body that is destined to grow old, wither, and die, always leads to suffering. To refrain from identifying with the body doesn't mean that you no longer care for it. If it is strong, beautiful, or vigorous, you can appreciate those attributes—while they last. You can also improve the body's condition through nutrition and exercise. If you don't equate the body with who you are, when beauty fades, vigor diminishes, or the body becomes incapacitated, this will not affect your sense of worth or identity in any way. In fact, as the body begins to weaken, the light of consciousness can shine more easily.
- You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the goodness that is already within you and allowing that goodness to emerge.
- If peace is really what you want, then you will choose peace.
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
this is just one of my many Save the Date cards
Thursday, July 9, 2009
then I have been working on invitations, I want to make some just to have to show what I can do.. ya know? Someone might see one of those and really like them... so I have been busy creating and making announcements and invites.. and I found some software to help make some cool ideas that I have been seeing for cards.. I get that tomorrow.. then I will be busy making all kinds of things.. lol...
oh and did you hear we are in this month parenting magazine, in the article about picking your battles with your kids.. let me know if you don't see it.. I can find you a link...
How was your fourth? what did you do? Anything crazy happen?
Thursday, June 25, 2009
I knew they got some freebies but this list is unbelievable! Once they started making big bucks with the show they should NOT have kept taking the free stuff. And churches pay for her to fly? What are those churches thinking? I hope that with the direction the show has taken people stop giving them free stuff. Are the companies making that much from the exposure on the show?
- Free beds
- Front-loader washing machines
- New furniture
- Free solar panels for "Going Green" episode
- Clothes from Gymboree and Gap
- Mady & Cara birthday at American Girl Place (2 dolls and birthday package for 2 adults & 2 kids): $710
- Trip to Florida Key's for Jon's 30th birthday
-Tickets to Dutch Wonderland amusement park: $309.50
-1/2 an organic cow from Natural Acres Farm: $1,395.00
-Tickets to Philadelphia Zoo: $104.00
-Tickets to Walt Disney World: $654.00 per day
- Utah house rental (estimate: $5,000), ski lift tickets $72 for six days), ski school lessons ($140 per child)
- Upright piano, which they got rid of when they moved into their new $1.1 million home : $5,550-$6,350
- Violin: $100-$300
- Old house re-carperted
-Crayola Factory Tour: $90.00
-Teeth Whitening (for Jon & Kate): $1,310 (average price for 2 adults)
-Hair plugs (Jon): $5,200 (average cost)
-Sesame Street Place tickets: $509.50
-Day with Thomas the Tank Engine: $180.00
-Beach trip to North Carolina, house rental, Jeep tour
-Sight & Sound Christian theatre tickets: $236.00
-SkyBox at Phillies game
-LegoLand tickets: $550.00
-San Diego Zoo tickets: $278.00
-Grand Wailea Resort (Hawaii) for 2008 vow renewal: Suites range from $725-$1,080 per night.
-2 purebred German Shepherd puppies: $1,000-$3,000 per dog
- Please Touch Museum tickets: $150.00
- Giants grocery store: $5,000 in gift cards and a year's supply of diapers
In order for the show to survive, Mediaweek's Berman says the Gosselins need to be upfront with the audience.
"They're now a celebrity couple," says Berman. "The emphasis of the show has changed, and they need to address how they've evolved."
"If they don't evolve the show, I think the audience is going to be upset,"
he tells Us. "You can't fool an audience.
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Ten Commandments for Husbands
1. Remember that thy wife is thy partner, not thy property.
2. Do not expect thy wife to be wife and wage earner at the same time.
3. Think not that thy business is none of thy wife's business.
4. Thou shalt hold thy wife's love by the same means that thou won it.
5. Thou shalt make the building of thy home thy first business.
6. Thou shalt cooperate with thy wife in establishing family discipline.
7. Thou shalt enter into thy home with cheerfulness.
8. Thou shalt not let anyone criticize they wife to thy face and get away with it. Neither thy father, nor thy mother, nor thy sister or any of thy relatives.
9. Thou shalt not take thy wife for granted.
10. Remember thy home and keep it holy.
To keep your marriage brimming
1. Leave chocolate kisses by the bed with a sweet note from you.
2. Dedicate a song to him on his favorite radio station.
3. Call him at work just to see how his day is going.
4. Try to prepare his all-time favorite dish. It may not taste quite like his mother makes it, but he’ll appreciate your efforts.
5. If he’s extra busy at work, offer to pick up his dry cleaning, fill his car with gas, or stop by the bank for him.
6. Organize a “dream” file, saving articles and photographs of vacation destinations or new home ideas that the two of you could work toward together.
7. Spend a Saturday at home together - with the door locked and the answering machine on.
8. Give him a break from rush-hour traffic. Offer to take him to work one day and pick him up that afternoon.
9. Tuck a small note in his pocket that tells him you love being his wife.
10. Take him out to see an action movie he’s been dying to see.
11. Tuck a book of “love” stamps in his briefcase.
12. Call his mother, just to see how she’s doing.
13. Write “I Love You” in lipstick on the bathroom mirror before he goes to get ready in the morning.
14. Celebrate every holiday!
15. Wear his favorite perfume.
16. Surprise him with a subscription to his favorite magazine.
17. Rent his favorite movie and make his favorite popcorn.
18. Write “I Love You” with chalk in his parking space at work.
19. If you can’t be home for dinner, leave him a romantic note in the refrigerator.
20. Deliver muffins or bagels to his office one morning.
21. Fax him a love note.
22. Drive by his office and leave a note on his car windshield inviting him to a romantic dinner.
23. Establish seasonal traditions such as a picnic on the first day of spring, or an annual trip to a mountain hideaway the first cool day of fall.
24. Make sure he never runs out of his favorite cologne.
25. Make a note of his boss’ birthday and remind him the day before.
26. Enjoy a sunset together.
27. Fill the cookie jar with those chocolate covered graham crackers he loved as a child.
28. Let him test drive that new, expensive sports car - just once!
29. Send him to work with a plate of your famous homemade oatmeal cookies for everyone to enjoy with their morning coffee.
30. Present him with a novelty apron to wear with he barbecues.
31. Leave a loving message on his voicemail at work.
32. Drop by his office when you know he’s out to lunch and leave a provocative note that makes him want to rush home that evening.
33. Go on an old-fashioned date to the skating rink or bowling alley.
34. Root through Bartlett’s Familiar Quotations for wonderful expressions that describe how you feel about him. Hide cards inscribed with the quotations where he’ll find them.
35. Find a scale model of that Ferrari or Jaguar he’s always wanted, so he can have the car of his dreams.
36. Write him a real letter once in while, just as if you were away and hadn't seen him for a while.
37. Sit down once a month and schedule a couple of interesting dates. Always have something to look forward to as a couple.
38. Borrow or rent a convertible and surprise him with a moonlit ride.
39. Surprise him with a sweatshirt from his college alma mater.
40. Leave a path of rose petals that leads to your bedroom. Naturally he’ll find you waiting there!
41. Tape his favorite comic strip to the bathroom mirror.
42. Carefully open a new box of his favorite cereal. Insert a love note and reseal the package.
43. Freeze a note that says “I love you” in an ice cube.
44. Place a rose under the windshield of his car.
45. Share a bubble bath.
46. Give him a roll of Life Savers candies with a note that reads “You’re my lifesaver.”
47. Write “I love you” on the eggs in the refrigerator.
48. Order 10 boxes of his favorite Girl Scout cookies.
49. Dress up for Saturday dinner at home.
50. Write him a poem and cut the piece of paper into puzzle-shaped pieces. Mail the envelope to his office.
51. Remember his mother’s birthday because she was wonderful enough to raise such a special person.
52. Buy him a years supply of golf, tennis, or racket balls.
53. Leave fun messages that flash up when he turns on his home computer.
54. Invite him to lunch unexpectedly.
55. Slip a scented love note into his briefcase.
56. Arrive at his office at 5:00 on Friday to whisk him away for a romantic weekend.
57. Send him a card for no reason at all. Just that you love him.
58. Go for an early morning walk together.
59. Celebrate even the very smallest of occasions: the 100th Wednesday of your marriage, etc.
60. Buy his favorite CD and welcome him home to beautiful music.
61. Place a favorite CD in his car so he’ll have relaxing sound for his daily commute.
62. Leave a romantic message for him on your home answering machine.
63. Develop new interests that the two of you can pursue together, take golf lessons or join a health club together.
64. A spontaneous hug or kiss goes a long way!
65. Rent a bicycle built for two for a weekend outing.
66. Cook him a candlelit dinner after a particularly stressful day.
67. Schedule one night a week just for each other. Don’t make any other plans.
68. Take a midnight stroll and enjoy the moonlight together.
69. Begin your own traditions with a favorite vacation shop or restaurant that will help you fall in love all over again whenever you visit there.
70. Fill his car with helium balloons and a great big card that says you care.
71. When you shop for yourself, remember to buy a little something for him.
1. Throw him a surprise party, complete with balloons and noise makers.
2. A week before his birthday, start sending him birthday cards, so he’ll know how much you appreciate the even that brought him into the world.
3. Turn a birthday gift into a treasure hunt.
4. Rent a billboard for a birthday card he’ll never forget!
5. Send him a musical greeting card.
6. Prepare his favorite breakfast and serve him in bed, with a note from you tucked under the plate.
The extra mile:
1. If his favorite sports team is in town, surprise him with two tickets.
2. While on vacation, arrange a parasailing lesson, massage or anything else he wouldn’t normally do on his own.
3. Have his car washed, including the tires and the interior.
4. Plan a weekend of fun activities without leaving town. Go to the farmers market on Saturday morning; eat a leisurely brunch; go swimming in the afternoon; see a movie; eat at the new neighborhood restaurant.
5. Have his wedding band engraved to read “I Love You”.
6. For a really special surprise, contact an old friend he hasn’t seen in a while and arrange a surprise meeting.
7. Splurge and have your next dinner at home together catered.
8. Take a horse-drawn carriage ride through the city.
9. Go to a carnival together. Spend all your change on silly games.
10. Share an outdoor concert under the stars.
11. Mail him a menu from that new restaurant you’ve been anxious to try - along with an invitation for dinner - your treat.
1. Slip a scented love note into his briefcase.
2. Send mail to him when he’s away on business. Be sure to enclose a picture of you!
3. Surprise him with an engraved luggage tag for his next business trip.
4. When he returns from a business trip, get the Welcome Home banners out and have a private celebration.
5. Slip some of his favorite candy into his briefcase.
1. As an anniversary gift, write the story of your love as if it were a fairy tale. Include some of the reasons why you love him in it.
2. Plant a tree to commemorate a very special occasion such as your anniversary, first house, birth of your first child. Then watch the tree grow along with your love.
3. On your anniversary, surprise him with a limousine for the night. The two of you can cuddle in the back just like you did on your wedding day and enjoy a night on the town.
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Words I WISH I had said to different people in my life, at some point, but didn't, for one reason or another..
I cheated on you while you were serving our country in Okinawa. When I broke up with you, I didn't tell you... because you were already so broken, I knew it would completely destroy you. Incidentally, it is part of the reason I have served alcohol to any military personnel who came to my bar, regardless of age. It was my pathetic little way of righting the wrong I did to you.
I use you as an example of a time when I "had" to give up on a friend because there was just no getting through to her, and I couldn't watch it anymore. In truth, I still feel incredibly guilty for giving up on you, no matter what the situation was.
Thank you for accepting my lame ass excuse that I was getting birth control behind your back from Planned Parenthood at 16 because "it helped my period." It was the wiser (and kinder) thing for you to do.
I know you judge me for my number.
I let you move halfway across the country with me, even though I knew that I didn't want to be with you anymore, because I was 19 and terrified of being completely on my own. Years later and still a friend, I think you are an amazing person for not hating me for it.
I found the letter you wrote Dad that ended with, "Something has to change." I always wonder how close you were to getting divorced.
We all know he's not the right guy for you. And so, I believe, do you.
I know you don't approve, but I don't regret all the drugs I did. I still get a tingle at the base of my spine when I think about some of them. I don't want them anymore… but I don't regret it either.
As much as it sucked going through what we did, I am really glad that I now know these three things: 1) How much you actually love me, 2) That I do have the strength to leave, and 3) That I won't ever need to use it. We are stronger and better for what happened.
I was completely lost in North Carolina until I met you. I probably would have given up and moved back home if it wasn't for you. I miss you. I miss being surrounded by the gay and fabulous in general.
Part of me wants to choose a life of financial security and FREEDOM rather than giving you grandchildren... but at the same time, after everything you've done for me, I don't feel I have the right to deny you that. Or rather, that I couldn’t live with myself if I did.
I love you so much, for years after I moved out of our bunkbeds into my own room, I would have dreams that something had happened to you and have to run into your room to make sure you were there, and that you were okay.
I am so completely, unbelievably glad that I found you here in DC. A girl ain't nothing without some real bestie girlfriends by her side.
You keep saying you feel horrible about yourself... you keep saying you want to lose weight. I SEE how unhappy you are in the dressing room of the department store, and it kills me. But you don't DO anything about it, even when I hold your hands and cry and tell you I want to know that you will be at my daughter's wedding someday. I don't know what else to do to inspire you.
I know, unquestioningly, that we will still be friends when we're 80, even if you stay in the South and I in the North forever.
I never believed it would be possible for me... but when I look at you, I truly see the rest of our lives... and for the first and only time in my life, that excites me instead of scares me.
Iowa residents who owe the Marshalltown Community School District lunch money soon will have more than the school bully to answer to.
The Board of Education approved a proposal Monday to hire an agency to collect unpaid lunch debts, according to the Marshalltown Times Republican, in the hopes that the agency, PSD Receivables, will be able to recover $25,900 from past-due school meal accounts.
District Food Service Director Ann Feilmann told the paper the district has tried sending letters and calling homes of debtors to no avail and doesn't consider denying students lunch to be a viable option.
"I'm hoping that we see a little more response," she said
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?I mean seriously, really going to do this???
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
|For the marinade:|
|1/3 cup canned pineapple juice|
|2 tablespoons fresh lime juice|
|2 cloves garlic, minced|
|2 teaspoons cumin|
|1/3 cup vegetable oil|
|1 teaspoon salt|
| 1/4 teaspoon pepper |
For the fajitas:
|2 pork tenderloins (about 2 pounds), trimmed of silver skin|
|2 large red onions, cut into 1-inch-thick slices and threaded lollipop-style on skewers|
|2 green bell peppers, cored, seeded, and cut into quarters|
|2 red bell peppers, cored, seeded, and cut into quarters|
|Olive oil for brushing|
|8 flour tortillas, wrapped in foil|
2. Prepare the grill for cooking. Brush the onion skewers and bell peppers with olive oil. Grill the vegetables until they are soft, about 20 minutes, and the tenderloins, turning them occasionally, until the centers register 145°, also about 20 minutes. Transfer all the food to a baking sheet and allow the tenderloins to rest for 5 minutes.
3. Meanwhile, remove the onion slices from the skewers. Chop them and the bell peppers, then arrange the vegetables on one side of a large serving platter. Slice the tenderloins into strips, then arrange them beside the vegetables.
4. Heat the foil-wrapped tortillas on the coolest part of the grill, turning them several times until they are warmed through. Serve the grilled vegetables, tenderloin strips, and tortillas with small bowls of the Fresh Pineapple Salsa, guacamole, and sour cream. Serves 8
Fresh Pineapple Salsa
|2 cups fresh pineapple, chopped|
|2 tablespoons fresh lime juice|
|1/2 cup cilantro|
|1/2 jalapeno pepper, seeded and chopped|
|1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes (or less for a milder taste)|
2. Transfer the salsa to a bowl, salt it to taste, then cover and refrigerate it until ready to serve. Makes 2 cups.